Beverly D. Flaxington, The Human Behavior Coach®, is a three-time bestselling and Gold-award winning author, an international speaker, an accomplished entrepreneur and consultant, college professor, corporate trainer, facilitator, and behavioral expert. Bev held several C-level jobs in her corporate career.
Bev has created a number of proprietary, successful approaches to changing human behavior and helping companies reach higher levels of excellence including the Six Keys to Confident Presenting ®, the S.H.I.F.T. Model ® and the Five Secrets to Successful Selling. She has authored 8 books.
Bev has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The Boston Globe, Readers Digest, MSNBC and dozens of other periodicals. She has been interviewed hundreds of times to share her views on how people can achieve their goals. She blogs twice monthly for Psychology Today.
What do I do best?
I believe I understand people better than most because I have a deep and sincere interest in understanding them. I find people fascinating and will take the time to learn about them. I connect and empathize at a very deep level.
What makes me the best version of myself?
#1 is definitely perseverance and tenacity! I didn’t grow up with much money or support so I had to figure most things out on my own. I heard a story about how bumblebees should not be able to fly – their wings are not big enough for their bodies – and I adopted this attitude of “why not?” so I keep pushing and pushing.
#2 is empathy. I care about people, animals and the planet – deeply. I truly care and I feel pain when others are in pain. I want to help and I will put my own resources toward doing so.
What are my aspirations?
My biggest aspiration is to inspire others. I really want to make a mark in the time I have on this earth and inspire others to reach their goals, and be the people they are meant to be. I’d like to earn enough money to truly help others – buy a building and renovate it for homeless people, buy a camp where inner city children can learn to ride, etc. Ideally I’d like to have the financial wherewithal and the energy to create opportunities that live on long past my time in a physical body.
My Biggest Success?
It’s my three children. I was never interested in having kids so they were all somewhat of surprises but raising them to be caring, supportive and passionate people is the major accomplishment of my life. Of course they are their own people but I do feel I had a strong influence on how they turned out (and I think they’d agree). I enjoy their company and really admire the wonderful human beings they have become. The second thing is the rescue work I do. We’ve fostered hundreds of dogs and cats, and have thirteen animals of our own. With a full-time job, and teaching part-time it is definitely work but it’s so well worth it. I’m proud of the contribution I’ve been able to make to several rescue organizations even with everything else I have going on in my life personally and professionally.
My Most Challenging Moment?
Quitting a very lucrative, senior level job and starting my own business. My own father did not speak to me for weeks he was so upset with my decision. I was making more money than I could have ever dreamed possible, had a wonderful staff of great people and a ten year career. Unfortunately I was assigned to a boss who was very unethical, immoral and not that smart. I felt I was selling my soul to stay so I walked out without a safety net in my new business. In retrospect, it was the BEST decision I ever made – my life would not be so rich and diverse if I had stayed. I have been able to do so many things that I’d never have done so it was a major turning point but boy, oh boy was it notably difficult for a long time!
“This too shall pass” – I’ve learned never to get too attached to anything, good or bad. Life is fleeting so it’s critically important to stay IN the moment and not look back or forward. You should plan, but don’t spend too much time in a dream state when you can make a difference right now. The other one, a companion saying is, “there is no time like the present”.
My Favorite People/Role Models?
I actually don’t have a lot of role models – I have been fortunate to have three mentors in my life – two are now deceased, Dr. Richard Harte who certified me in hypnosis and sparked my interest in training and consulting, Henry Szafarz who was a very successful family friend who introduced me to the power of positive thinking and Silva Mind Control along with hypnosis and Dr. Ron Cruickshank who remains a dear friend of mine.
My Favorite Places/Destinations?
I love to travel so it’s hard to say a favorite – Desert Springs CA probably tops the list, I love Europe and Hawaii, I love Alaska and I love HOME!
My Favorite Products/Objects?
I’m not much of a “things” person – I’m addicted to organization so I love my Outlook Rules and my calendar. I’m a purple FANATIC so I love my purple-painted house, all of my purple things that are everywhere I look around and I ADORE my pets – they aren’t really “things” but they fill my life and are always nearby whenever I am home.
My Current Passions?
I am really passionate about taking a lot of the self-help work I have done and making it accessible via the web. I want to share my ideas and help as many people as possible. I’m excited about writing yet another book, and I have another idea for one this year. I feel an urgency to get as many helpful tools and ideas into the hands of millions so they can learn how to reach their goals and succeed!