Roni Beth Tower is the author of the award-winning memoir, Miracle at Midlife: A Transatlantic Romance, of "Life, Refracted" on PsychologyToday.com, and of other popular and scientific articles described on her website, www.miracleatmidlife.com. She earned a BA in Religion at Barnard, a PhD in clinical psychology at Yale, and credentials as a Research Affiliate in Epidemiology and Public Health at Yale Medical School. Dr. Tower practiced as a clinical psychologist for over thirty years, taught at Yale and Columbia Teachers College, was President of the American Association for the Study of Mental Imagery, served on the boards of Yale Alumni Fund and Connecticut Psychological Association, and currently volunteers for Yale, the American Red Cross, and the Surrogate Decision Making Committee of the State of New York Commission on Quality of Care and Advocacy for Persons with Disabilities. Her specialty as a psychologist was close relationships, especially their impact on health and well-being.
What do I do best?
I see old things in new ways and can often reflect back to people what they might not see in themselves. I am especially aware of “life lessons learned” – my own and those of others.
What makes me the best version of myself?
Breathing, yoga, meditation. And having people in my life who want what I have to give.
What are my aspirations?
To speak my truths as clearly as I can in ways that illuminate the complexity of being human for others, inspiring them to live with courage, joy and integrity. To learn, live and teach loving.
My Biggest Success?
Making impractical choices that have permitted me to live with love, joy, and purpose. Turning down opportunities for fame and fortune to protect what was most dear to my heart and consistent with who and how I wanted to be.
My Most Challenging Moment?
My most transformative decision is detailed in my memoir, Miracle at Midlife: A Transatlantic Romance. When I walked away from a secure life filled with meaningful relationships and professional success into the unknowns of a new love commitment and life in a foreign culture, I traded valued connections and achievements for an opportunity to share my life with a man I loved and to become more fully the woman I was. Twenty-two years later, I can say it all worked out quite well, although in most unexpected ways.
Thank you, God, for this day.
My Favorite People/Role Models?
Helen Block Lewis, who gave me my goal: to become a “wise old woman”. J. Richard Hackman, who understood and inspired me by keeping his ego subordinate to his expression of who he was. My children and husband, whose abilities to love continue to amaze me.
My Favorite Places/Destinations?
In France: Paris, the Dordogne, Villefranche-Sur-Mer, the landing beaches in Normandy, and Dinard. In the United States: Tenants Harbor and Acadia National Park, Maine, and any non-commercial salt-water shore.
My Favorite Products/Objects?
Uni-ball Vision Elite pens, and my computer, yoga mat, passport, glasses and hearing aids.
My Current Passions?
My family, yoga, writing, visiting France, meditating, talking to people interested in my book, quilting, watching non-violent movies and dance.