Benjamin Hardy, Medium.com’s #1 writer, PhD Candidate at Clemson University and author of, Willpower Doesn't Work: Discover the Hidden Keys to Success (March 6, 2018, Hachette Books). With his popular writings focusing on self-improvement, motivation and entrepreneurship, Hardy has spent years inspiring others to obtain success through his work, studies and personal experiences. The foster dad of 3 personally overcame a broken family afflicted by addiction, discovering that the only way to truly thrive is to proactively shape your environment.
What do I do best?
I am very efficient when I write. I think this is because I write what I believe with no apology. I’m not trying to write to please anyone, but to tell it how it is based on my research and experience. My writing is focused on helping people become the best people they can be. This is not an easy journey but it is the most important journey. I make lots of mistakes as I try to be a good husband, father, friend, influencer, etc. But I love sharing what I learn and being alongside others through the journey.
What makes me the best version of myself?
I’m the best version on myself when my actions are aligned with my deepest goals. When my actions (getting up on time, eating clean, getting a good workout) are aligned with my goals, I feel confident and inspired. Do what is right, let the consequence follow.
What are my aspirations?
I want to write many many books. I never want to stop sharing my ideas and collaborating with others to create new ideas. I want to be an epic husband and father. I want to practice what I preach and be humble enough to make changes every day. My success starts in my home and in myself. If I focus on that, the books I write will have the same effect on other people’s lives, homes, and workplaces.
My Biggest Success?
Creating an awesome family by marrying my wife and adopting our three kids.
My Most Challenging Moment?
In the beginning of my second semester of graduate school, and my wife’s first semester, our application to be foster parents in the state of SC was approved. Suddenly, we had two amazing (and very scared) children in our care. It was a difficult transition for us all but within that first year as parents, we managed to have their older brother move in with us from a group home. At the start of my second year of grad school, we were the foster parents of three siblings ages 3-7. I couldn’t live the typical graduate student culture with a wife and three kids depending on me. I quit my minimally paying graduate assistantship and began writing full time. That was a huge decision that required me to stop dreaming and start doing. Now, my PhD is still in the works (slower than I would like) but I’ve been able to build my writing and in February, we adopted our three kids.
“Good timber does not grow with ease: The stronger wind, the stronger trees; The further sky, the greater length; The more the storm, the more the strength. By sun and cold, by rain and snow, In trees and men good timbers grow.”—Douglas Malloch
My Favorite People/Role Models?
God, my wife, Networker and Addiction Coach Joe Polish, and Author Richard Paul Evans
My Favorite Places/Destinations?
Since being married, I spend a week each summer with my wife’s family in Lake Powell, UT and I spend another week fishing in Alaska with my father-in-law. These are unplugged times full of tradition and memories. My wife learned to water ski at Lake Powell when she was 10. She taught me and, last summer, our oldest son learned with my wife in the water and her father driving the boat. Moments like that are fleeting and priceless. We like to travel across the country and globe. Those experiences are amazing. But there is something really powerful about traditions and passing them on. They keep me connected to the people who matter the most.
My Favorite Products/Objects?
I love my THULE man clutch. I’ve never been able to cope with wallets so this in-between is perfect for me. I’m a really simple person. I wear my Live Lucky shirt and Nike shoes until they wear out then buy the same ones or similar. My journals are my most prized possessions and I write every day. People send me custom journals pretty frequently to try out but I stick with the old composition notebooks you can often find for fifty cents.
My Current Passions?
Writing. When I’m not happy, it’s because I’m not writing enough. I also like long drives with my family. We all enjoy road trips and experiencing as many cultures as we can.